“Don’t judge me!” Is judgement always harmful?

By | 2018-01-16T13:01:10+00:00 May 4th, 2016|

Judgment is not necessarily always harmful. Is judgement helpful or harmful?“Don’t judge me!” could be both a powerful liberating statement and a misguided one creating misunderstanding and separation. Have you ever wondered what judgement actually is? If it is just harmful, then how can we know good from bad and legitimately express our preferences in life and in our relationships? Many of us have a conflicting or ambivalent understanding of judgement. I believe that gaining a clearer understanding of judgment can be extremely helpful and empowering in our relationship with ourselves and with others.

On relationships: don’t try changing him/her

By | 2017-12-11T21:21:28+00:00 November 23rd, 2015|

Just felt like sharing a few wonderful quotations on intimate relationships. They relate timeless universal wisdom in different ways: Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed ~Albert Einstein  Einstein and his second wife Elsa Löwenthal who was also

Dear Rumi…Tell me about forgiveness

By | 2017-12-15T22:42:50+00:00 September 30th, 2014|

Rumi Calendar – Response to the September Question White doves and Mpatapo, the Adinkra symbol of reconciliation and peace. [1] Tell me about forgiveness. Why should I forgive and how? Why is there so much hate and revenge? Thankfully one can still witness many instances of compassion, humanity and cooperation. Nevertheless it seems

Love hurts…it has to…to wake you up!

By | 2018-01-15T22:28:58+00:00 September 20th, 2014|

This is a follow up post from last month’s “Dear Rumi, What is true love?“.  I am writing this to emphasise three things: Firstly that the “capital letters True Love” is not something other worldly, it is not something higher and separate from us to achieve, it is our fabric and true nature; we only need to be able to experience ourselves as true love. Secondly ...

Beautiful words & harsh realities. “The Other Wise Man”

By | 2017-12-11T21:21:30+00:00 September 13th, 2014|

This; another wonderful story by Henry Van Dyke; is dedicated to the dear reader who so authentically and bravely expressed her inner conflicts resulting from the outer conflicts that she sees around her. She exposes a real conflict that many of us face, should we be honest with ourselves. This is the deep chasm between

Dear Rumi…What is True Love?

By | 2017-12-11T21:21:30+00:00 August 30th, 2014|

Rumi Calendar - Response to the August Question What is True Love? Why are there so many unhappy relationships and broken hearts? Love which is based on just a pretty face; is not true love, it ends in sheer disgrace.  ~Rumi [1] [See also the follow up post "Love hurts...it has to...to wake you up!"

6 Reasons Everyone’s Taking the Ice Bucket Challenge

By | 2017-12-15T17:21:01+00:00 August 24th, 2014|

The viral charity phenomenon is based on some sound psychological principles. [Reblogging from Psychology Today] By now, you have likely either participated in or at least observed others take the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge that has swept the nation in recent days. It is amazing how popular this trend has become overnight. Who would have guessed

Why We End Up in Bad Relationships

By | 2017-12-14T16:36:42+00:00 August 7th, 2014|

  [Reblogged from Psychology Today] Written by Mark B. Borg, Jr., Ph.D., Grant H. Brenner, MD, & Daniel Berry, RN, MHA A truly intimate relationship is a deep, free, and responsive connection with another person who really matters to us. But when the other person matters a great deal to us, we also feel vulnerable to