Then this beautiful poem by Rumi came to me. It describes our frustration along the journey so wonderfully and gives us sound advice in exquisite poetic language (my translation does not do justice to Rumi’s masterful, powerful and magical choice of words.)
Restless to restful
All your restlessness
is rooted in your seeking restfulness.
Be a restless seeker
of the truth; and
restfulness will find you. ~Rumi
So, in this case, the person becomes restless seeking a higher spiritual experience which may not come about. However, if we seek the truth for the sake of the truth itself; not for a higher spiritual state that we have an idea of; then restlessness and our unique expression of a higher spiritual state shall find us.
Socrates imparts the same wisdom in another brilliant sense:
If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality. -Socrates
And yet another pearl of wisdom:
Everybody’s mind, everybody’s basic nature is constantly changing, changing, changing. You have to accept that and bring some flexibility to your ideas of the way things should be.
Fixed ideas make life difficult. Why do we solidify ideas: “I want my life to be exactly like this”? Because “I like.” That’s the reason—because we like things that way.
None of us wants to die, but can we fix it so that we won’t? We would like to live forever, enjoying life on Earth. Can we fix it so that we will? No, it’s impossible. Your basic nature—your mind, your body, the world—is automatically changing. Wanting things to go exactly a certain way is only making trouble for yourself. ~Lama Yeshe
If you are wondering how you should go about exploring your restlessness and your wanting to change your present experience, please revisit Get to know yourself, the Wonder Why Why method.